Why Do Straight Women Love Gay Romance?
By Claire Thompson
Back in 2007 I wrote my first M/M BDSM love stories, Golden Boy and its sequel, Golden Man. I have gone on to write over a dozen M/M love stories, both BDSM and vanilla, and I’ve fallen in love with my heroes, as have my readers.
The question is—why?
Why do straight women want to write and read about gay male lovers? And what the hell do we know it, anyway? When I began to think it through, the thought of alpha males connecting with one another on an intimate, passionate level had the potential to be very sexy indeed. First the imagery itself is very powerful—two strong, sensual man tousling, touching, kissing, making love in ways women find exciting and perhaps taboo. Gorgeous male bodies pressing together in hot, muscular passion…excuse me while I go for a quick cold shower…
I have come to realize the potential for guiding my readers past their comfort zone, but in a way that would leave them breathless. I strive to take my readers by the hand, leading them into the heated waters of explicit male/male sex—from first kiss to final consummation. Throw in some whips and chains and dark intrigue, and you have yourself a wonderful escape, at least for a little while.
My female readers are permitted, even encouraged, to become voyeurs of a world they, by definition, can’t not be a part of. Yet through my stories I hope to draw them in, to let them connect for a moment with a different lifestyle, a different world.
Beyond the physical imagery, I enjoy exploring the difficulties and intensity unique to men as lovers. I try to capture the unexpected gentleness and honesty shared between men who are not afraid to be vulnerable.
Because I am primarily a BDSM author, most of my m/m novels include and revolve around a BDSM theme. In Golden Boy, Johnny Wilson is in serious denial—not only of his sexual orientation, but of his sexually submissive nature as well. This gave me an opportunity to delve into the dynamics of “coming out” along with finding the courage to commit in a loving D/s relationship.
Johnny, who until his world is turned upside down by the quietly confident, fiercely sexy Eric, had always defined himself as straight. His controlling domineering father would never have permitted any other definition. The conflict generated within himself and later with his family adds a new dimension to the already difficult terrain of gay love and a D/s lifestyle.
His love interest, Eric Mendez, has to come to terms with a new kind of man. Eric is used to playing the BDSM scene, using pretty boys for his pleasure but never letting them anywhere near his heart. When he first sees the devastatingly handsome man at the gay underground club where he reigns as king, his heart is captured in an instant. Unaware Johnny is only just beginning to understand his own impulses and desires, he promises himself to find the elusive golden-haired stranger and make him his own.
When they do finally connect, Johnny, naïve, innocent and aching to learn, is an entirely new sort of challenge for Eric. Used to savvy, worldly men who can fend for themselves in the ways of sex and submission, Eric realizes the enormous responsibility of becoming involved with such an innocent, and one who trusts him so completely. The usual rules he’s employed his D/s affairs no longer apply. For the first time in his life he’s faced with something far more dangerous than kinky play involving whips and rope. He’s faced with the possibility of a real connection and the chance it will break his heart.
In writing the story, I wanted to get behind the tough, sexy alpha hero that is Eric and explore his gentler side—his romantic impulses and the tenderness love engenders in him. I wanted to explore the conflict between the new lovers, with Johnny pulling back, uncertain of his own desires, and Eric forcing himself to go slow, even when Johnny presses for more.
When people have asked me how I, as a woman, dare to write about gay men, and what the hell do I know about it, I reply that I write not so much about gay men, per se, but about the human experience, of which being gay is one aspect. I am not a straight man, either, and yet no one has ever asked me how I dare to create straight male characters, and what makes me think I can get into their heads or understand their experience.
I would suggest that to limit a writer to writing only about what they have personally experienced would be to limit them to very dull fair indeed! Creating believable characters in interesting and compelling situations should not be limited to one’s own small life experience, though of course experience does make one a better writer (hopefully!). No matter your sexual orientation or who you love, a good story is still a good story. In end we come back to the essence of every romance novel—a longing for true love and the courage to embrace it.
The Contract – by Claire Thompson
Out of a job and betrayed by his lover, Jace Thompson jumps at an opportunity almost too good to be true. On a private island in the Florida Keys, a secret BDSM community exists in resort-style luxury, the wealthy clients served by paid submissives who meet their every erotic desire and sensual whim. As Jace works hard to serve the men of the island with submissive grace, he is challenged at every turn by a manipulative trainer who seems hell bent on his failure, and another who brings out a deeply submissive nature Jace didn’t realize he possessed.
When trainer Quinn is asked to assess Jace for his submissive potential, the connection between them is immediate and intense. He might have to make an exception to his rule to never get involved with the service subs. His jealous ex-lover has other ideas.
Dark intrigue and unrequited desires combine in a tangled web of danger and deception. Against a backdrop of lush tropical beauty and steamy passion, Jace and Quinn begin a tentative and ultimately powerful exploration of Domination and submission not only of the body, but of the heart and soul.
Claire Thompson
Claire has been writing for nearly two decades, and has published over 70 novels. She writes BDSM romance and non-con abduction tales, spanning both m/f and m/m genres. Claire’s love affair is with all things D/s (Dominance/submission). Her work began as a romantic exploration of the BDSM life style, and then veered to the darker side of fantasy. She is fascinated with the dark psyche of a twisted mind, and seeks insight into what might motivate such a person to do what they do. Rather than the all-evil villain and heroes as pure as the driven snow, Claire strives to develop real, complex and flawed human beings.
She seeks not only to tell a story, but to come to grips with, and ultimately exalt in the true beauty and spirituality of a loving exchange of power. Her darker works press the envelope of what is erotic and what can be a sometimes-dangerous slide into the world of sadomasochism. Ultimately her work deals with the human condition, and our constant search for love and intensity of experience.
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Great post Claire. I have read many of your books & loved them!
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Thanks, Rod. I appreciate it!
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wow….now I NEED to read your books!
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That sounds good to me, Lee! Let me know what you start with!
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I think you hit the head on the nail with why I love mm romances. The imagery and idea is extremely sexy as well as the dynamics and different emotions of a mm relationship. This sounds like an amazing book. Definitely on my tbr.
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I’m glad it resonated, Stephanie. It’s fun to try to figure out why we do what we do, and what makes us tick! Let me know if you get a chance to check out The Contract or any others!
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Hi Claire, I am a fan of your writing and always enjoy your books. Thanks for the giveaway.
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Thank you! And good luck on the giveaway!
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Thank you – you explained exactly why I like M/M books.
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I’m glad you enjoyed the posting, Kris. It’s fun to try and figure out why we do what we do and like what we like. Though it’s even more fun just to do it! 😉
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Oooo BDSM and MM….I might melt! Thanks for the opportunity to win!
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Laughing! There’s plenty more where that came from!
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Great post… I love Claires books my favourites are The Contract and Switch
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Thanks, Tracy! Switch is also one of my personal faves. I love the dynamic between the two guys. They become real to me as I write them. It never grows old.
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Very good insite. I think the story is about how the lovers connect and a good writer can make that happen with any gender pairing. I agree with the concept that reading things that might be taboo seems to facinate most women. For myself it lets me into a world that is out of my scope of reality and take a ride on the wild side. thank you for letting me see what you write and how you fee about writing it. I look forward to reading your stories.
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Thanks, Niki! Let me know if you get a chance to check out my work!
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Oh I have to see i don’t think I have read anything by ou yet. thanks for the giveaway.
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I hope you get a chance to check out my work! 🙂
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Thanks for the great post. I have been trying to explain to people why I like M/M books so much, but it’s been hard to articulate completely. I think I have been missing out, but now that I know about your books, I’ll be reading them soon. The ones you have here look fantastic!
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Thanks, Jen. And just so you know, they are not ALL BDSM. You can see the different categories on my website or on RomanceUnbound.com (where you can purchase them for a mere pittance, grin!)
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You’re right – it’s the love story that matters in the end, regardless of the inclination of the protagonists. I have to give a talk soon about erotic romance which will include a section on MM – and an attempt to explain many straight women’s fascination.
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M/M BDSM has a unique twist. There’s a different vibe/a different dynamic between two men than between a man and a woman. That’s part of what makes it so powerful.
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Hi Claire 😉 Thanks so much for letting us host your post and giveaway 😉 I loved reading it and agree that it would be very limiting for writers and readers if all stories were soley based on a writer’s own experience. I love exploring new world, situations, feelings… through great books.
I read one of your books, but it wasn’t a BDSM one. I read ‘The Handyman’. Truth be told, while a friend recommended it to me, I thought it would just be a hot little handyman fantasy and was surprised at the depth of the story. It positively surprised me and I fell in love with your guys ❤
So hot when a guy is so open for a new experience 😉
XOXO Marc
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Thanks for the opportunity, Marc. I had fun, and I love to hear from readers. Let’s do it again soon!
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I am never going to serve in the armed forces or be a spy, visit the Hanging Gardens of Babylon in their original ancient state of beauty, or travel to another solar system and meet aliens so does that mean I cannot read fiction books about those subjects? Nope it does not and it won’t stop me reading or writing books in the mm genre either, so thank you for the great books you have written and a few of my favourites are The Cowboy Poet (will you ever write about more about Tyler & Clint?) & The Handyman 🙂
thank you for a chance to win one of your books to add to my mm BDSM collection – hopefully 😀
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This made me laugh! It’s funny how when it comes to matter of sexual orientation, people get so rigid (such as refusing to read a m/m book written by a woman, because what could they possibly know about it), but folks, as you have so aptly pointed out, have no problem with an author’s imagination in other venues, even different solar systems and species! 🙂
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I just find the men so much more varied and appealing, and the romance arcs less predictable!
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Hi Trix, That is well put, though if an author is doing her job, the romance arc of a m/f will not be so predictable either. Formulaic writing is boring for both reader and author, no matter how you slice it and dress it up.
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